30 Day Likeability Challenge – Lesson 2

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What did you learn from our last lesson? Were you able to consciously identify what caused you to like the people you liked? If so, please tell the community what you learned in the comment section below.

Today’s Lesson

We like people who like us.

Your challenge over the next 48 hours is to tell the people you like, that you like them and report back on the results.


  • By Jim, February 15, 2010 @ 6:13 am

    Hi Bob, I think that you’re great! I love your style, and your courses, and I just wanted to say: I Like You. regards Jim T.

  • By Carolyn Hewitt, February 22, 2010 @ 10:38 am

    Hi Bob and all you other likable folks!

    I considered 7 people that I especially liked for this exercise. They had many of the qualities listed below in common.

    Even tempered
    Easily smile and laugh
    Comfortable with them
    Love their families
    Do their very best at any task given to them
    Speak well of others

  • By Jeanette Simpson, ASID, February 23, 2010 @ 7:24 am

    I noticed a common thread….they all are pleasant to be around, positive, happy people who love helping others.

  • By Bill, March 5, 2010 @ 6:12 pm

    people I like are consistently happy to see me and let me know with a smile. They are interested in me. They point out my strengths. They are honest. They share their life with me.

  • By selena, February 13, 2011 @ 6:53 am

    hi bob,
    body language and facial expressions are huge for me. and that conversations should flow. if it takes so much energy that it drains me to talk to someone, i will just pull away. also i find if someone doesn’t ask any questions but just talks about themselves, not likable.

  • By April Harris, March 26, 2011 @ 12:47 pm


    First of all thank you for sharing with us at the GO! Network session last Tuesday in St. Louis, MO. You are crisp, refreshing, and yes– very likable!

    I noticed these characteristics of the people I liked:

    Easy-going, “laid back”
    They welcome me
    Non- critical; complimentary
    Good listeners

  • By Mary, April 18, 2011 @ 11:05 am

    Terrific idea for an exercise. I loved it! I can’t help liking people who can make me laugh — or even smile for that matter. Add to that people who are kind without being cloying, trustworthy and authentic.

  • By Ebony, July 8, 2011 @ 8:49 am

    Created the greatest aritecls, you have.

  • By Joya, January 24, 2012 @ 3:00 pm

    Thanks for the lessons, Bob!

    I’ve observed that I like people who:
    – are positive and upbeat
    – are attentive
    – look me straight in the eye and smile
    – are engaging in conversation
    – are open and share their experiences
    – appear to be brimming with youthful energy
    – speak confidently
    – listen
    – are funny

  • By Isabella, April 28, 2012 @ 4:21 am

    After pondering why I liked the people I do, I couldn’t help noticing a high corrolation between the people I liked and your laws of likeability – but more specifically, the people I like the best are people who make me feel competent, beautiful, respected and people who I can collaborate with and help.

  • By Jamie, July 12, 2012 @ 10:36 am

    I like people who smile, are friendly, who listen to me. I guess I like people who like me.

  • By keith, November 20, 2012 @ 6:08 pm

    These are the common characteristics of people I like:
    non critical
    smiles and makes eye contact

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